Experience Gift Ideas for Every Love Language

Words of Affirmation

Write your partner a letter based on the following prompts. What do you appreciate or admire about them? (Get specific!) What are you grateful for about the life you’ve created together? What are your favorite moments together from the past year and why? What are you going to commit to working on to make the relationship better? Set aside some time to read the letter aloud directly to them, or if you’re feeling bold, memorize the important parts and share with them without notes.

Acts of Service

Take a few minutes to brainstorm about what you hear your partner complain or worry about the most. Pick one or two of them and think of a few ways that you could take something off their plate. And execute! For example, let’s say they seem really stressed about making lunches for the kids and it’s traditionally their role. For the week leading up to the Christmas holiday, do it before you go to bed or wake up early and do it for them.

Physical Touch

At any gatherings you host or go to, take any opportunity you can to hold their hand, especially if they are in an interaction you know will make them anxious. Any time you see they may have had a stressful moment or had something good happen and could use affirmation or celebration, go give them a hug and tell them you’re there for them or proud of them.

Quality Time

Plan a day over the holiday where there are absolutely no plans other than simply to be together as a family, and also see if you can get away with having another day just the two of you. No plans, no distractions. Just see where the day takes you and what would feel good in each moment.

Gifts

Gifts is tricky because it’s by definition not an experience, but we can get creative! Plan a date to take your partner to one of their favorite stores. Make sure it’s a place that feels special to them because people who have gifts as a love language want it to feel like a gift that shows you know them. When you’re on the date, make it playful and pick out something fun together as a gift for them.